A Death in our Family –
Friday evening, Sept. 16, 2022.
My brother Bob died today.
At 9:30 am this morning. Ojai, Ca
His son was with him.
My brother was unable to speak for
several years. Unable to remember.
He was suffering.
I am glad that he was ‘called back home.’
Bob is free now.
We don’t like to see others suffering.
Suffering is a purification.
The Soul chooses when one’s death occurs.

My brother Jim would visit Bob each week.
Bob was dying in segments.
The slow progression of dementia.
Unable to eat, to drink at the end.
He was in a home for 16 months.
At the end he was in hospice.
His face had become like a skeleton.
One could see the contours of his bones.
At the end Bob was disconnected to things around him.
Unable to respond.

Jim was with Bob this morning just after Bob died.
Jim spoke with Bob, telling him he was glad Bob was his brother.
And all that he loved about him.
And that he was glad Bob had died.
The disease Bob was debilitating for Bob.
Bob was Jim’s pal.
Bob was everyone’s pal. Bob was kind.
Bob was my younger brother.
He was born in College Station, Texas, near Bryan, Texas.
He was born December 29, 1953.
Bob died today. September 16, 2022.
Bob was almost 69 years old.

Bob’s’ body is in the morturary now.
And he will be cremated.

I understand a wake.
Sitting around with family, talking, being quiet, pondering, praying. Whatever comes up to do.
Allowing the reality to seep into one’s consciousness.
I think I will be crying soon.

Bob leaves behind his wife, Carolyn, two sons, and a grandaughter; two brothers & two sisters. We all loved Bob.

Some of our siblings live far away from where Bob lived.
My sister said – we should have a way for the immediate family to connect with one another, talking about our feelings about what happened, about Bob’s death – so we can all mourn & share with each other. A virtual wake. First a private one with the siblings. Then opening it up to the extended family. So we can pray, talk, share together. And talk about Bob.

Bob was my mother’s favorite child. We all knew this. Astrologically they were like the same beings, Bob & our mother.
My mother & father had five children. Bob was the 4th child.
I can see our mother & father welcoming Bob into heaven.
We will pray for Bob, in the Bardos for 49 days.
Death is the Great Adventure. We are free when we die to this earth plane. We are free. Bob is free. I am glad for him.
Om Mani Padme Hum. Om Mani Padme Hum. Om Mani Padme Hum. I told Matthew about Bob. Matthew cried tonight at the death of his uncle. Crying is healing.
More tomorrow. Risa